A dear brave gay friend of mine came out to his mother two months ago. He wrote this touching letter and asked me to published it on my blog:
The choice: A letter to my mother, and everyone else.
You choose to be gay, and you can “unchoose” it.
Do we choose to cast disappointment on those we love the most?
Do we choose to rob ourselves from the look of love and pride our parents reserve for our siblings who marry their opposite sex?
Do we choose to worry about what the next door neighbours will think and if they’ll report us to the police?
Do we choose to uproot ourselves from everything we know and lived with, every single time a government cracks down on us and we seek refuge somewhere else, amongst foreigners who never saw us battle through our lives since our childhood?
Do we choose to not get married right now because the country we live in doesn’t recognize our union, and one of us has a passport that doesn’t allow us to rest our tired souls on its soil, unless we get married somewhere else, away from everyone that have witnessed our birth and childhood?
Do we choose to worry about, if one of us gets sick and needs rushing to the hospital, what story we’d come up with about the nature of our relationship to the nurse and doctors?
Do we choose to worry about the people who always see us together, grocery shopping, going to the gym, checking in at hotels and ordering a king size bed?
Do we choose to have to delete any of our endearing messages and photographs on our phone should we detained at the airport security offices, in fear that we’d be put in hal and deported?
Do we choose to turn our backs on those we thought love us without any boundaries, because all they us to be is like the rest?
Do we choose to run to every single grave we know, asking their inhabitants if indeed Hell is reserved for us?
We choose to live through it all, because at the end of the day, our love for each other, and for our own selves, is worth it. This is the choice we make. Every single second of every single day.