Suha, my friend, has been on a date the other day
one of the first things the guy she was dating made clear is:
He DOEESNT MIND her to keep her job if they get married!
He doesn’t mind?!!!
What the heck?
As if it is his decision!
What a consdensing little brat!
and I bet he feels good about himself for being *open minded* enough
to let his wife keep her job!
and maybe other people praise him for that as well
for it is by default to a lot of people that such descision belong to the *man*
Then you have me here…
looking at an excellent job offer I recently recieved
They offer me a job title I have never dreamt of
They offer me a ridiculous high salary I never expected
My initial natural reaction was jumping of happiness
but soon all faded out to fears and concerns
right after the moment I presented it to my parents and friends
and watched the not-so-happy reaction on their faces
“Haya, better job title, and bette salary, and then what?!!”
“Then what” carries the unworthy nature of my career achievements!
It over-shadows -unfairly- all the tiresome, my hard work and ambition over the years
It is a reminder that I am a woman living in a male dominated society
where my only worth is attached to how much I can please my husband!
“Habibti, men doesn’t like to engage in a relationship with a woman they feel is superior to them in anyway” a friend of mine said it!
That’s the bottom-line, isn’t it?
The inferiority complex of the Jordanian male!
So that means enno every promotion of my results in a smaller pool of a potential future husband!
As if the pool has been big enough in the first place!
and I honestly don’t want to stay single
I am, like any other girl, would like to meet the right guy
and start my own family
but it is becoming an impossible task with all of the social constraints
The issue of career itself alone is a delimma!
In one hand, you have those mom’s, and guys looking for a working women to help him in the expenses of the family
While in the other hand, you have the same mom’s and guys who don’t want him to be married to a woman whose job title or salary is better than his!
because people would call him “Goz el Set”! (The husband of the Madamme!)
and I bet that a lot of guys just wouldn’t care if their women carried a better job if it is just for them
but we all have this stupid worrisome of what others would say about us, no?
and it is a big offense to the man’s masculinity and social status if his woman *makes more* than him!
Wasn’t it the ability to make more money the excuse men had for ages to keep their women in the kitchen?
but now, life has changed
and ironically, women are making more and more everyday
destroying all kinds of social forms that were built around the notion that the man is the family financial supporter
but then, change is hard
and people would fight for their traditions and *cultures*
leaving me with a tough decision to make
“Shall I accept the job offer or not?”
Advise me guys…