Children exposure to sexually oriented materials


He sighted in boredom, moaning to his master to give him some work to do. The young 12 years old child was sitting on a chair next to mine under the shade at the mechanic’s garage while holding a pepsi can that he seems to refuse to let it go with this hot weather.

He caught my attention with the way he talks. I didn’t expect this kind of language to come out from this little thin body. It was obvious that this little boy is trying to live an age older than his, trying to mock up grown ups in a tough environment where even the tone of your voice is an indication of how manly you are.

I wasn’t aware of the role of this boy in a mechanic garage. While trying to ease my anger of having to wait for hours till they fix my car, I sat there under the shade trying to avoid touvhing anything that would dirt or harm me. The sight of the boy and the insight I felt of his tough life, initiated a feeling of unease in my gut, a mixed feeling of guilt and relief, injustice and blessfulness, sympathy and protectivness. Comparing my attitude to this man in a child disguise, I felt being a child myself.

My washing machine worked fast, and soon, my bad feeling faded away as I got more familiar with the scene at hand and the expressions on the face of the boy. He didn’t seem to me that he is really suffering that way I assumed from the little glimpse on his life. Maybe it was his own washing machine that has been working to ensure a sense of accpetance for his situation and adaptation to this kind of life.

The vulgar sexually explicit language is what really bothered me about the whole situation. Living in an ivory world, watching the hype of the media about childhood and the risks of exposing children to sexual materials hit reality at the sight of this boy who seemed to be doing *fine* to me, and holding himself and his sanity better than millions who live in castles and kill themselves out of bordeom!

The whole situation made me wonder how fragile/immune we really are as children. How legitemate is all the hype generated by the media of exposing children to sexually oriented materials? and how much we have to work in order to help those kids? Does over protecting result in a more fragile or more immune person?

The other day, and on boston legal, the popular law American TV show, a case was presented of a law suit issued by an American mother on a company who produces dolls with emplicitly sexual gesture. Both of the attorneys from the defense and offense sides did their job in defending their client’s stand. The defensive side highlighted how much sex is really incorproted in our daily lives and how the kid of that mother is already exposed to other sexually oriented materials at the very sight and hear of his mother. From music, internet, video games and people’s clothes or behaviour, kids around the globe are exposed to sexuality more than we imagine. No kid is protected as much as we think he is.

Our bodies matures faster than our minds. While a 12 years old kid can be fully developed physically and is ready – actually in need – for sex. His mind might be still immature to handle the sequences of such an intense operation.

In our side of the world, it wasn’t an uncommon practice before 50 years for young people in their early teenage years to get married. My grandmother became a mother herself for a twin at the age of 14. While hearing about it now sounds to be odd and unfair, she herself doesn’t seem to suffer from that. In the contrary, she seems to live a happy life.

The other day as well, on Dr. Phil show, they showed this 25 years old female teacher who fall in love with a 17 years old boy whom she used to teach. She was on trial. She has lost her respect among her community, lost her job, and at the risks of spending a lot of years in jail.

I am not sure how much this teacher really used this boy, and how much damage she could have implicitly caused him, and I don’t know how would I feel as a parent if such a thing ever happens to my child, but I am also looking it from his own perspective and how much it means for a teenager to have sex with his teacher which was a common fantasy among my peers at school.

Did she really harm him or granted him something that maybe have added to his self confidence and fullfilled his dreams?

The topic of pedophility is a red line. They call them sexual predators in the US. People who have sex with children end up in jail for very long. I am not sure how much different the verdict is if the sex incident happens with the consent of the child or not, and I am not going to defend pedophiles here because it is a risky topic that I am not sure where I even stand with it, but I wonder about the truth behind our behaviour and sexuality.

31 thoughts on “Children exposure to sexually oriented materials

  1. Jasim says:

    I was talking about this the other day with a friend of mine, and I totally agree with every word you’ve said! It’s sad how children nowadays are exposed to every kind of sexual material, in regard of their age!Many factors enhance this knowledge, and the problem that most of the children, if not all, learn about sexuality the wrong way, from the media or the Internet, by watching pornography and such harmful material!In my opinion the solution to protect our kids from such an experience is to talk to them, and to give them what they need in more scientific approach, more like of a guidelines, along with the ugly side course of the sexuality!

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  2. thats a good post🙂but i think that we need to talk more with the kids and teens, try to communicate wth them more, and be them . and not let them feel that thy r different, coz in such ages thier targets and life to prove their personlity and these days beleive me, in having sex they beleive they are mature! and old enought u haik!if i start telling u stories about the teens i worked with i wont finish forever!

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  3. Maybe that mother in Boston legal should get a life sentence in jail, since she made her son suck her boobs as an infant!! I don’t think the issue of sex with children as being different from regular rape cases. Just like how raping adults is a crime, raping children is also a crime… I don’t see why they insist on making a distinction between raping adults and raping children… Both are heinous crimes!!The problem about having sex with children is that they might be easily mislead… Thats to say, a misinformed child will give a misinformed consent… Thats why children should be given additional guidance before deciding to have sex with some adults… But I think, if a child has been able to demonstrate true will to engage in sexual act with an adult, thats his\her choice that everybody has to respect. Just like making a child have intercourse against their will is a crime…. Prohibiting a child from intercourse against their will is also a crime…. Because in both cases, you are making someone do something against their will!!As for the 17 years old boy having sex with his teacher, its a true crime not to let him go for it…. Otherwise, the system is raping a boy’s dreams!!I don’t think there is a problem with pedophilia as a sexual orientation… Consent is the main issue at hand!! Personally, I believe that sex should be allowed between any two consenting individuals, regardless of their gender, race, religion, physical attributes, age, or otherwise!!

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  4. Oh wow, you hit my hot topic here.DM, you probably new I would disagree. You know that apartment building near your house? There is a boy there who showed all the little kids in that building his porn, and has sexually abused several of them. he is a ‘classic’ abuser, probably abused himself.He built trust, he gave them gifts, he slowly got them used to images of sex, gave lots of ‘good touch’, to break down any natural resistance. Small children will do alot for approval, especially if they feel special that an older kid pays them attention. Then he’ll use secrets and guilt to keep them available for his ‘use’. Consent isn’t the issue. Even informed consent, children just don’t have the ability to make wise decisions, that is why they have parents!! It is power for pedophiles. The mis-use of other children’s bodies for selfish gratification. This is in no way a sexual orientation issue. Sexuality is a great gift, but it can destroy a person when it is left wild and unchecked.Twelve year olds may have the bodies, but they don’t have the maturity to balance it. This is why it is the perfect age to learn self-control, and not go wild in th eexperimentation phase. Parents can teach kids about their sexuality and talk about the subject from an early age, with age-appropriate details, that build upon previous talks. Especially by taking the shame out of the topic.

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  5. Jasim, I am not sure how much harmful those sexual materials on our children, as I asked in my post, I wonder how fragile/immune are we? Wedz, communication is always good, and it should be done in good manners. Teeange is a tough age. I am glad I am over it!Devil’s mind, you are bold man. Actually I kind of bend towards your own view. If it isn’t harmful then why not? But the question is that when you are a child, how much can you make a sound decision? and how much such a decision of having sex with an adult can cause damage to you? It is the first time that I see pedophila in a slightly acceptable light. Kinzi, you sure have a firm stand on this issue. I agree where you said that a child can manipulated by the adult into sex in various way, but would that be harmful to the child if no real abuse is involved? In early teenage years age does matter. I mean a 12 years old child is definatly different that a 14 years one but there is no big difference between a 16 and 18 years old child. I know people who had sex with adults while being under age, and they don’t feel bad about it. When I tell them you were abused and were taken advantage of, they say no, in the contrary, they took advantage of the adult!

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  6. I don’t mind paedophiles. In fact, I suggest having books written for children where they describe the act or the signals that might lead to this act. In that case, if children see any of these signs, they get to choose whether to commence with the act or not. In case they want to, they could read another book on describing the best ways and moves for children to enjoy their sexual experience.You know what? I wanna be the first publisher of such books. Oh, I am gonna be soooo famous. So long suckers…*visits prisons full of paedophiles*

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  7. Observer, I think I am probably the only one here who has lived the side you are talking about. I was an underage teenager being used by men in their 20s. I thought it was cool and was consensual, but it taught me I was a toy, devoid of any value other than other’s pleasure. There is not much more damaging than that to one’s identity.

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  8. Golly, I like how kinzi put it. frivolous lawsuits aside, no matter how you put it the level of maturity required today is much more than what it was 50 years ago. that is why the comparison is invalid. more importantly it is the emotional maturity, they tend to mix up roles(dad, mom, brother, lover, sister, daughter, good, evil) too quickly, to them its a blur. they also don’t have much personal experience to make THEIR decision hence <>“children just don’t have the ability to make wise decisions”<>now i have nothing against experimenting but thats usually between people who are around the same age (2 years or so) but usually its just exploration more than our definition of what the word “sex” means. hmm and i heard about using them part too… I don’t know how to put what i feel (there are alot of mixed feelings about this) but i think if you watch < HREF="http://imdb.com/title/tt0242587/" REL="nofollow">L.I.E.<>it’ll help convey the feeling a bit . the issue that bothers me the most is the fixation with a certain age group, so the way i view it is that they get tossed out once they mature which will certainly be damaging.now that teacher student thing is different, come on they are all hot ! now if thats abuse then i don’t mind getting some myself

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  9. Kinzi, your concerns are valid. But what you are talking about is misinformed will… First of all, the generalization that children cannot make wise decisions is invalid, and discriminates against youngsters. Wiseness CANNOT be measured by age. You might find a 5 years old wise boy, and you might find an unwise 40 years old.I recognize the “grooming” techniques you describe where that adults use to break the children’s inhibition. There should be an important and crucial role for parents here in educational terms. Also, I don’t think its a good idea that adults can get in sexual relationships with children unscreened. The best solution I can think of is that a child would have to attend sex-education classes to children, so if a child wants to have sex with an adult, they would get sex-education classes and (possibly) some parental guidance. After that there should be no problem. But if the adult engaged in a sexual relationship with a child that didn’t attend those classes, they’d get into trouble. I don’t think parental permission should be required, although informing them for guidance purposes could be useful. But parents should not be given the power to limit their children’s choices (in all life aspects).With good educational centers and some parental guidance, the children should have enough information to make good decisions. <>“But the question is that when you are a child, how much can you make a sound decision? and how much such a decision of having sex with an adult can cause damage to you?”<> – I think, being taken lightly and being robbed of your right to consent is much more hurtful that being in an unhealthy sexual relationship. As I suggested, given enough guidance, sexual activity should not be controversial!!

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  10. Kinzi, I am sorry of what you had to go through, and yes I understand how damaging it can be. It is just that there are other cases where the child is proud of what he has done without any bad feelings about it. For me, and while I have no idea how would it be if I have been through it, but I have a kind of feeling that I have missed something where it would stay as a good memory with me.But the case isnt black and white I guess. Maybe it is better to restrict such behaviour rather than causing such a damage to a kid.I disagree with Devil’s mind when he said that forbidden a child from practicing his desires can be more damaging that allowing it to in fear of a potential damage. No_angel has a point as well. Maturity level differs from time to time and from a person to another around the same age. Maybe judges should take that into consideration when convicting some adult to a 30+ years in jail for sleeping with an under age child!

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  11. Well DM, this is a point where we will have to agree to disagree agreeably. I am not misinformed, but choose not to validate that string of information; I actually have quite a bit of experience and knowledge in this area.You might find that as a parent you will feel differently when your child comes to you with a neighbor who wants to have sex with him.Observer, thank you for the empathy. I agree that the teenager with his teacher may be part of the gray area, but even then, it is a matter of someone with authority breaking a rule that is there for a reason.Another reason I am totally against it is that there are reasons men choose children…they can’t emotionally engage in intimacy with peers.

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  12. Husams says:

    I’m really not sure about that kind of experience is extremely damaging to Identity as Kinzi described it, I mean you said you passed through this kind of experience yourself and I can confidently say you are one of the most intellectual ladies and who has a solid identity. Oprah got raped at age 9, I wonder if that was of extreme negative value on her life, then how better she would have grown to be if she didn’t pass through this? I know it’s a hard lesson and should be punished for taking something against other’s well, but it is only as damaging to personality as people make it sound to be. My point here attaching pedophilia to damaging personality, is just like attaching loss of virginity to loss of honor in the Arab world, of no logical value, and the girl is only of less of honor and of damaged personality just as much as the people around her make her believe so.We are preventing these things for being over protective over our children, we don’t want them to get an emotional breakdown at an early age, though in reality it’s not differing than the emotional breakdown you get at all ages and it increases your experience, yes it is not good to feel being used at some stage, but I guess it makes you learn a positive lesson about the reality of life. and that’s what I believe is the main point in the observer’s post, about that kid who is being exposed to sexual behavior in an early age, will he be raised to be more immune in facing life, than the fragile kid who is always protected from such behavior by his parents? We all know the typical wealthy parent who suffered and traveled and worked hard to gain his wealth, and now he is protecting his son from the same suffering experience not knowing its what made him the man he is today, and he is now damaging his son personality just for his own natural selfish satisfaction of feeling protective towards his son. Still I would set an age regulation for relationships, my suggestion 12-18, 13-19, 14-20… and so on till 18-… then it’s all your freewill, I know it’s against the utopian thinking of devil’s mind, but think of it just as a driver license, we know that kids under 18 can drive a car and its against their rights to prevent them from driving, but statistics would tell that in general it’s better for society and for the kids lives to prevent them from driving before age 18, it is just because of our current ignorance in reaching a better system design where we can allow them the right to drive safely.

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  13. Just as Husams said, Oprah benefited from her (non-consensual) experience… But Oprah’s case cannot be taken as a good example, because it was non-consensual…On the other hand, in say, Kinzi’s case where she learnt a lesson from the consequences of her own choices is an ideal case. If someone now gave you (Kinzi) an oportunuty to go back in time, and change your decision to sleep around with men in the 20s, would you do it?! [Honestly, if you say “yes”, I would think there is something wrong]So people live the consequences of their choices in life… Thats the real beauty of life – in my opinion. Whether they were wise choices or unwise choices, a person should be proud that he is living his own choices – for good or bad!Maybe the above paragraph only represents my personal perspective, but making others do the choices on your behalf is the worst kind of life I can imagine!!

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  14. Kinzi- *hi5*..looks like we share the same experience.Observer- I am serious about my suggestions and Devil Mind’s comment about sex-education lessons approves my opinion.

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  15. Well, I guess I am going to have to tell another part of my story in brief to explain. I was prematurely exposed to pornography when I was between 5-8, the father of a friend of mine. He groomed all of us little girls for sex visually and verbally, telling us to keep it a secret. He was a well respected man in our community. I knew what he was doing was wrong, but I also knew no one would believe us if we told. Ironically, another of his daughters is now a very famous celebrity who fights for victims of sexual abuse. I am gathering courage to contact her and ask her if she remembers what happened in her father’s shed.Everyone of us from that group was damaged, later diving into promiscuity. Maybe it is hard for a guy to understand, but to penetrated in body by someone who doesnt’ belong there is a picture of what happens to your soul. You end up with a violation of soul, betrayed by someone who should have protected you, which then affects every relationship you have from then on.Husam, thanks for the affirming words. But remember you are seeing me 40 years after the fact. My healing began when I became a follower of Jesus Christ, and He did a massive healing of soul and spirit. It wasn’t until 20 years afterward until I really understood how I sabotaged relationships with others as a result of abuse, keeping others at a distance so I wouldn’t be hurt again.Now, in retrospect when I see how I can offer hope and help other victims , I can say truly say I thank God even for what I went through.With the driving analogy, there is some interesting study. It turns out that boys brains aren’t fully mature enough to fully comprehend the consequences of high risk behaviour until they are 18; hence the high number of traffic accidents and fatalities in the 16-18 year old bracket. See the implications? Their bodies can do it, their brains don’t comprehend. So, is it a better system design we need or just raise the driving age to 18? How about a 12 year old? How much more sexuality, especially when the consequences could be a baby who didn’t ask to be brought into the world pays the price.

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  16. I wanted to say also, that in order to protect my children, I am not sheltering them, but training them. They are all aware of good touch/bad touch/ boundaries, yell and tell, and trusting their instincts. They know we will listen and believe them.DM, you are so right I would change things if I could go back in time. Remember, this didnt’ happen in my 20s, but middle teen years. My promiscuity was sanctioned and encouraged by parents who felt stifled by morality – we were raised to believe sex was like pleasant exercise. How I longed for my parents, even then, to tell me to stop.DM, I wonder if perhaps part of your passion for freedom of sexual choice stems from living in a repressive society? I can understand where that desire for freedom comes from. Imagine, I seem to have been raised with your ideal scenario, and it didnt’ work for me.Hamza, shared experience is it a happy or sad high 5? How has it affected you? Actually, I do have a book a friend produced for children, in Arabic. But we are giving it away🙂

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  17. I don’t know if what I am going to say has anything to do with the subject, but there is a show on NBC called “to catch a predator”, they basically set up a house with cameras and everything, a group of people log onto chat rooms as 10-14 year old kids(males and females), as soon as they log on the begin to get explicit messages from people who want to hook up, the law enforcment officers sometimes manage to get them to come and meet the “Kid” while his/her family is out, and you will be surprised how many people shows up!!Rabbis, priests, professors, teachers, army men, Doctors, gangsters, etc…You name it, all kinds of people show up, one of them took off his clothes in the garage and got in ready to feed on his prey..it is jus sickening, and the sad thing is they get 2-3 years max!!Here in the US they set up a site where they give you addresses of pedophiles which is a good thing, and play area for kids are always under police survelience..It is really sad..

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  18. Mohanned, God has been good to me and strengthened me in the very places I was weak, gave me a love and respect for His plan for sexuality.That is one amazing program on NBC. It shows the breadth of the problem. It is easy to tell from these examples that they are hardly interested in a mutually beneficial relationship with a child, it is pure, selfish sexual gratification at the expense of someone less able to protect or even think for themselves. One common link to them all…a progression in pornographic viewing. They didn’t start looking at kiddie porn, they started with the less offensive stuff, but as the thrill wore off, went deeper and deeper into the taboo area. When there is not another human to have sex with, and it is just visuals and masturbation, deception can cloud good judgement that the presence of an adult would keep from happening. Intensity is never satisfiedMany of them interviewed talked how they felt trapped in it and needed help. I hope they get the help they need, but once men have gone that far, not many can be helped.

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  19. <>“He groomed all of us little girls for sex visually and verbally, telling us *to keep it a secret*.”<> – As always, the problem starts with parenting!! Keeping secrets away from your parents is an issue of mistrust… Why should a child doubt for a split of a second that his parents will not believe him, unless the parents previously failed him in other aspects of life.An open platform for communication and discussion is crucial to the upbringing of children, including sexuality (yes, I think parents should actively educate their children sexually even as infants).This problem IS NOT specific to children. You probably have met GROWN UP women, who when beaten by their husbands HIDE THE BRUISES!! Sometimes they give excuses to their husbands, and even might blame themselves!!As I demonstrated in the previous example, the “culture of shame” (rooted by wrong upbringing of the parents) is a crucial part of the problem here.Notice that these grooming techniques are obvious violations of a person’s will… Sure, any adult who attempts to groom children using any method (the way you described or otherwise) deserves to be punished. Manipulation does NOT make a will!!<>“DM, I wonder if perhaps part of your passion for freedom of sexual choice stems from living in a repressive society?”<> – Freedom is part of the nature of life. But its true, I don’t like the ways people do business around here, and I fight for my own selfish reasons!!

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  20. KJ says:

    Yes everyone is a drama queen when it comes to sex.Sex, along with food and shelter, is in the very bottom of Maslow’s Pyramid of needs.It is a sensitive topic, and you can’t simply generalize and say people should or should not expose their children to sexual materials.It depends on the culture, the environment, the parents, and the child’s maturity index. Some kids are more understanding and accepting of sex and some others aren’t, and some are just born to be wild and go on inseminating sprees.Awareness that sex exists is essential. How MUCH of the awareness is relative.

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  21. You guys are amazing, you just brought a lot to the table to discuss. It left puzzled even more about the whole subject. Each on of you seem to have a valid point which is worth thinking of.Does pain push us to grow as Husam’s suggested while bringing Oprah as an example? I think that yes it does, as I stated even in a previous post. BUT I don’t think that it our growth justifies it. While at the end, people who endure pain would benefit of it, they would have gone through hell before reaching that stage. I won’t subject my child with such hell in order to force him to grow. Kinzi, as you usual, been the strong courageous woman we all know. Shared with us a brief of her sexual abuse in childhood. I know that it ISNT easy to talk about it, and so appreciate it BIG time.Based on your story Kinzi, you were 5-8 years old when that man take advantage of you. That is an age where you werent even physically mature. I am not sure how much difference it would make if you were 12 when such an incident happen. I guess the definition of childhood differ by age. Those under 10 are different from those above it. Every year matters. An maturity is relative as Hamza said. The search for predators! What a show of dehumanizing human beings! While I understand the need to protect our children from any potential harm, I dont understand how we rush to dehumanize people who might have a kind of sexual orientation as DM suggest, or in need for a serious help because of a previous abuse they have endured. I beleive Kinzi when she talks about the damage of identity, and it does scare me to think of the fact of the potential harms other children maybe subjected to. As DM said, good communication with the parents is a necessity especially these days were our kids are even more exposed to the world through the internet. Wish there is a magic solution. I guess that as always, each case has its unique attributes, and that we shouldn’t judge until we look closer.

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  22. Observer, thanks for bringing up the topic and allowing me to present my views. And for understanding how hard it is to talk about my own experience. Thanks for being willing to understand how very deep the pain of violation of trust goes. For knowing that Oprah and I have a measure of healing, but there are so many that limp through life with undealtwith pain, without tools to help recover. DM, there are no perfect parents out there. The standard you lay out is rarely reached even in the best and most progressive of homes. The different thing with kids (vs. women who hide bruises) is their inability to process information: every victim I talked to hid the info from their parents because the abuser was a beloved part of the family or friend.Two Jordanian friends DID tell their parents about their brother’s sexual abuse. Guess what? They were beaten for saying bad things about their brother, they were not believed. These are wealthy, West Amman wasta families, not ZarqaA child can’t process the fact that an adult or older person would do something wrong to them, so they think in their little minds that they themselves are wrong, dirty, caused the attraction (especially when as abuser says “You are so cute I can’t help myself”, this is a common Jordanian line). These are strong shame messages that get ingrained in a kid’s mind, and sets them up for further abuse.Kids do all kinds of dangerous things they shouldn’t even when presented with the facts, even when trained. They start fires, drink chemicals, go barefoot on glass, the list is endless.

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  23. Observer,Kids for me is the most sacred thing on planet earth, I don’t care if the predator is ill or not, there has to be signs that someone is prone to doing something wrong..Wether he/she is ill mentally or not, he/she has to be punished to the maximum extent(killing wouldn’t do for me)Think of the most painful method to punish someone-I will take it to the next level..Then when they meet god(If they believe) I am sure he will be more mercifull on them than me/us..Call me crazy, but thats how I see child predators(Devils)

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  24. But two wrongs don’t make a right. I don’t support the idea of prohibiting legitimate activities, just because they might be misused. Its like fighting terrorism, should people for example stop going to weddings just because they might be bombed?! Some would stay at home, others would take their chances… But the government should do its best to stop terrorism, while not imposing a lifestyle of fear!! Yes, this world contains some predators, but limiting our choices and kneel to the danger isn’t the wisest choice – at least not for all people. I understand that parents are far from good enough. Some children are abused by their own father, not the man next door!! Protecting the children is a noble cause, and I myself largely support it. But I think I should stop for a while and thank Kinzi for sharing her story…

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  25. Thanks DM, you are a ginchy guy, as well as brilliant🙂. This is probably one of the only topics I know enough about to engage a discussion with you on, so I have enjoyed that aspect as well.Observer, thanks for not getting irritated with as many times as I checked back on this thread🙂

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  26. Kinzi, it is a pleasure to have you debating something on my blog. Irritating?! ofcourse not! It is an honor to me🙂I understand how much personal this issue is to you.Mohannad, children are sacred yes, it depends if the so called predator raped a child or did it with the child’s consent. In both cases, I think that we shouldn’t dehumanize anyone, and try working on avoiding such situations.DM, as kinzi said, brilliant as always. Man, you have a kind of logic that is unmatchable in the blogsphere. I raise my hat for you, a thumb up, and much respect!

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  27. Anonymous says:

    I’ve just spend the last fifteen minutes reading the blogs about children, sexual exposure, podophiles, and pedophelia (that’s how you spell it, morons!) and I’m sitting here asking myself, where in the hell are these people from? What kind of sicko thinks it’s okay to have sex with a child? I was molested when I was five and let me assure you that it had NOTHING to do with sexual pleasure for me. I didn’t even know what was going on but I knew it was wrong and I’ve battled with it ever since. All of this a moral and ethical issue!!! Does anyone on here know RIGHT FROM WRONG??

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  28. Anonymous says:

    Oh.. one more thing… You say infer that it’s okay to have sex with a child as long as you have the child’s consent? What kind of logic is that? I could get a child to consent to murder if I confuse him and brain wash him enough. There is a reason why children can’t vote, drive, or engage in legal documents before the age of 18. It’s because they can be easily mislead and simply don’t have the maturity to deal with the ramifications of such… and that includes sex. We should be teaching our children that sex is an intimate and sacred thing to be shared with someone we truly love. Children should be taught self-control and self respect so that they’re not sharing their bodies with people who only wish to take advantage of them for their own pleasure. Again, this has nothing to do with consent, no consent, pleasure or lack there of… this is a moral and ethical issue and anyone who thinks otherwise has been blindsided by evil.

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  29. hey anonymous, this is an old post, I wish you visited here earlier to engage in this discussion and give us your point of view. Now I am afraid no one would read your last comments except of me and people browsing my blog for older posts. Hope that you check this again and read my comment, and if you want we can initiate another dicussion in a new post.I understand how hard it can be for abused children. I think that age does make a difference, like what we discussed before a 5 years child is not like 15 years one. I also know people who had sex while being under 18 with older ones without feeling molested or abused. For not long women from this part of the world used to get married at an age of 13-14 and they used to do fine without feeling abused. It is a complicated topic, and I am sorry for your pain. hope you find a way to heal…

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