“One who compliments himself is a liar”, this is the translation of the Arabic proverb “Made7 nafso kazzab”. My friend Haitham always reminds me of this whevever I acknowledge something good in me.
For instance, he would say “They love you”, then I say “yeah, I am loveable”. He would groan and say “Made7 nafso Kazzab”!
It isn’t just Haitham, it is a general matter where it seems that we have developed a sense of not believing those who talk good about themselves because usually people who do talk much about their qualities are the ones who lack them.
But why wouldn’t I acknowledge my own qualities just in fear of people misinterpret me with others who lie?
Acknowledgement doesn’t mean to keep on bringing it every single time I talk with anyone else, or exaggerating it, or even gloating in front of others about some qualities that I have where others don’t. It means to be able to state that yes, I do have those qualities, and that yes, I am proud of it, and that yes, you can seem me in a better light if you are aware that I have them.
One has to develop a good amount of social/emotional intelligence in order to know when it is appropriate to talk about himself in a good way and when just to stay silent and let others praise him.
When I usually acknowledge a quality in me in front of another person. I try to ground my face expression so that it wont look as if I am gloating or something. Some other times, when I am into a teasing mood and head to head with a friend, I do exaggerate my qualities and give my face a gloating expression.
I recommend you people not to shy from stating the good in you. You just have to do it appropiatly.