While writing my short story The Nude Man, that I posted a while ago here, and later on discussing it with some bloggers who posted comments and some friends offline, it made me wonder about the real link between Nudity and Honesty that was represented in the story.
The idea is how much can a person reveal of himself without offending the others. I am not talking about physical revealing, but character and inner thoughts and ideas as well.
My friend said that thinking about how wanting to be true to ourselves can sometimes be the only thing that causes us to lie to the others because of our differences.
How much should we expose ourselves to others?
If you are hiding something, then people around you would sense that which would put much strain on your relationship with them. In the other hand, sometimes people don’t share much not because they don’t want to share, but also because they think that the others can’t handle what can be “too much information”.
It is like nudity. People need some kind of intimacy in order to be able to show their bodies to each other. We don’t want to see every other one’s body. It depends on the kind of relationship and closeness we have with the person.
I wonder if pysical and mental nudity are related. Thinking about that, it makes me think of how much we wear as Arabs in comparison of how much the Western people wear.
Does our bulking up clothes and covering our bodies more than them affect the way we communicate with each other? Does it put much stain on our relationships and prevent us to really connect with each other?
The scene of a husband and wife having sex with their clothes on because they feel embarassed of taking it off because they have been taught that sex is bad, and having a kind of relationship where they do share only the minimum required to keep that marriage in the eyes of society pops into my mind as in various Arabic TV series.
Those scenes speak volume about the strain we have in our relationships in the Arab world. I am not sure how much strain clothes add, but it represents a block that we the Arab add between each other as a mechanism of protecting ourselves.