I wonder if the lack of sex before marriage can be one of the reasons of a sexless marriage afterwards.
It is a touchy subject. Most of the Jordanians are not ready for the idea to have sex experiences outside marriage boundaries because it is unacceptable from cultural and religious point of views.
And I said “Most” while not sure how accurate this can be regarding the rapid changes that has affect our society in the past couple of years.
It is becoming more and more acceptable for women to declare that they have a boy friend these days comparing to what used to happen before 10 years for example, where having a boy friend was percieved as an immoral act, and the girl doing so, as a bad one.
Maybe it is safe to say that these days it is rare to find a 25 years celibate old woman that had never been in a loving relationship before.
Looking into relationships, one can wonder how much a couple can abide from having any kind of sexual contact. Sure complete intercourse outside marriage is still a taboo. Being a virgin is still a requirement to pass the first wedding night for women in our society although you can see some tiny ratio of men (that is getting larger each day) who are ready to get over this complication.
Does getting ‘love relationships’ to be common thing, means that secretive sexual behaviours is common as well? and how long can we keep on denying the changes that are taking place in our society? and is it really a bad thing?
Can sexual contacts before marriage give a couple an indication of what their sexual life can be after marriage? Would it prevent many failed, or sexless marriages if a person knew what does he/she really want, and what is his sexual preference, and whether compaitablity between the couple exist or not?
Or it is like in Oula‘s post, that we like to percieve the origin of the problem as of the load of work and busy life we are getting to face?
I just wish we can be more courageous to address what is really going on in our society without pointing fingers on each other. Things are changing. Why not face it?